Those really important friends who touch base and ask “So…..how’s that THING going?” With the tone that says “You’re doing what you SAID you were gonna do…..right?”
I’ve been very blessed to have a number of these accountability partners over the years.
The friends who care enough to check.
The friends who call out my excuses when I fail to practice the behavior I said I was going to change.
The friends who remind me that I am making the change because the old way doesn’t work.
For me OR for them.
I value my friends. Deeply.
Their (occasionally constant) reminders that something just doesn’t work eventually gets me to practice the hard emotional work of change.
And since many of them are educators, they will tend to dig a little deeper.
Mostly asking what caused me to regress. Forcing me to reflect.
Then asking me to try again.
For which I am eternally grateful.
One of the members of the Up2Us community expanded this idea to our community. This individual and another member of the community have been my accountability partners over the past year as I’ve tried to make some of my own changes (personal and not naming names – they know who they are and I am eternally grateful for their check ins and lengthy talks).
Each Monday – he goes into our Slack channel and asks “So what are you going to do this week?”
And the wider community responds with the activities they want to be held accountable for.
On Friday – he returns. “How did it go?” And everybody shares their successes and failures and what they thought went right and wrong.
I am finding that this exercise helps to expand the trust and connection we have built in the live events. And for those who weren’t able to make that year’s event – it helps to maintain engagement in the community. Also to let them know that there is a corner of the world they can go to with cheerleaders as they walk through their own journey.
Two simple questions.
So what are you going to do?
How did it go?