This one is a bit trickier for me. I’m not good at asking for help.
As I learn sales and marketing, finding a mentor provided a greater challenge than usual.
Most of my closest friends have the same problem I do – sales and marketing are not natural acts.
Furthermore, the best salesman I know is my brother, and though I can ask him advice, he’s a natural. He probably thinks my struggle is ridiculous.
I’m also not good at receiving advice from people close to me. This is why I don’t ask my partner for golf tips (even though he is a fantastic golfer). I know myself well enough to know that I’m going to resist. I prefer to keep my relationships with both my brother and my partner strong. No point in testing those bonds because I’m suffering from the “familiarity breeds contempt” fallacy.
The sales and marketing mentor I found is completely outside my network. This works for me because he doesn’t need to be my friend. Plus, he’s been there. He’s made the mistakes. He’s far enough along that he can guide, but isn’t so far along that he can’t relate. And he holds me accountable. This has been critical for the “hard” activities. I’m great at procrastinating when I have to reach out to people or release projects I’ve been working on forever.
Mentorship provides the accountability that is absolutely critical for learning a new skill and feedback from someone who has already done the work multiple times. In my case, my mentor has also talked me down from a few fear-based freakouts. I haven’t been the best student 🙂
Kenny Goodman – Find the Edge. He’s been invaluable in helping me with my first pass at developing a marketable consulting service.
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