When faced with a new idea – what decision criteria are you using?
Have you defined it?
Or are you just saying “yes” to whatever is in front of you?
Not that saying “yes” to whatever is in front of you is a bad thing. At certain times of life, it’s a great way to discover new interests, have new experiences, and learn a lot very quickly (including a lot about things you never want to do again).
However, many of us default to “yes” because we can’t think of a better option, we want to please someone else/get them out of our hair, or we haven’t figured out any decision criteria to say yes/no against.
Your decision criteria should be based on what is important to you.
- What area of your life are you focusing on right now?
- What are your goals – long and short-term?
- Which relationships are important to you?
- What values do you wish to demonstrate?
For example, one of my decision criteria centers around “How does this impact my relationship with my family?”
Do I have a previous family obligation that the opportunity impacts? That’s a hard “no” in my book.
Is it unclear what the impact will be? That’s an “I’ll get back to you by [date/time] with a decision (and/or alternative).”
Your decision criteria will likely be different.
It will likely change as you move through life.
You may find previously set decision criteria no longer apply (ie. your kids leaving the house, so you no longer need to worry about driving them around).
You may find that your defined decision criteria doesn’t work for you and you need to iterate again. That’s OK too. There’s a lot of noise telling us about all the things we “should” do.
Start with something simple. A clear yes/no answer for you.
Being clear on your decision criteria pays big dividends in making room for the people and experiences you value.
What specific topics should I cover in Dealing with Ideas that Distract? The course will be 3-weeks and the videos will be 1 hour long with an hour of live Q&A.
Comment by number. Choose your top 3.
1) How to intake a new idea
2) Saying “no”
3) Periodization – what should I focus on during this period?
4) Important vs. Urgent – Telling the difference
5) When should the new idea take priority and how to pivot
6) Scheduling and Backlogs – Making room for new ideas
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