Much of the conversation around feedback centers around negative feedback. How to receive negative feedback without getting angry or beating yourself up. How to give negative feedback in ways that don’t trigger the receiver and allows the receiver to make positive change. However, many of us struggle to receive positive feedback. Especially those of us […]
Perfectionism as Addiction
Perfection develops as an adaptation or a survival strategy for a number of different reasons. The most common one is to compensate for a sense of inadequacy and not being good enough, and over functioning to meet external standards is one way to offset those feelings of inadequacy Deany Laliotis, LICSW in the National Institute […]
You Will Never Measure Up
You will never meet expectations. You will never get everything done. You will not be number one. Why not? Because you are now competing with over 7 billion other people. You are now measured against instantaneous satisfaction. You are now bombarded with opportunities and things that you MUST do in order to succeed. You are […]
What ‘Decision Criteria’ Looks Like in Action
I’m going to share some of my decision criteria when faced with choices. Remember the 4 questions from last week: What area of your life are you focusing on right now? What are your goals – long and short-term? Which relationships are important to you? What values do you wish to demonstrate? Here are my […]
Developing Decision Criteria
When faced with a new idea – what decision criteria are you using? Have you defined it? Or are you just saying “yes” to whatever is in front of you? Not that saying “yes” to whatever is in front of you is a bad thing. At certain times of life, it’s a great way to […]
Move to the New or Stick with the Old?
When you have hit a sticky part of your project and a new opportunity or idea presents itself, what is your default? Do you quickly move to the new and get started – abandoning the thing that you were trying to do? OR Do you keep plugging away at what you are doing, even if […]
Dealing with the Siren Song of Distraction
It was amazing. The deeper I got into the book writing process, the more I wanted to distract myself. I had to keep reminding myself that we were past the point of “just one more source” and keep writing. I had a couple of epic ideas that just wouldn’t die, despite my attempts to keep […]
Adding vs Embedding in Real Life
I decided during a trip to Mexico that I was going to learn how to surf. I was over 40 and wasn’t known for my grace and balance. I had a great lesson, which sadly ended in a wave catching me and the board I was carrying, twisting me awkwardly as I walked onto the […]
What is Motivating Your Change?
Brian Moran and Michael Lennington, in their book The 12 Week Year, ask: Are you are being externally motivated to do things? How close is the alignment of your work and efforts to how you want your life to look? If the goal doesn’t align with your life vision, how inspired are you to work […]
The Myths Around Attention Spans
Do we really have less attention span than a goldfish? What does attention span measure anyway? The video above answers these questions and other myths. The material is from the first course – Sticky Learning. Sticky Learning is the first course in a masterclass series for instructional designers – Design Better Learning Sticky Learning isn’t […]
