When we’re busy and have that high-octane, panicked feeling that time is scarce …our attention and ability to focus narrows. Behavioral researchers call this phenomenon “tunneling.” And, like being in a tunnel, we’re only able to concentrate on the most immediate, and often low value, tasks right in front of us. (Research has found we actually lose […]
Adding vs Embedding in Real Life
I decided during a trip to Mexico that I was going to learn how to surf. I was over 40 and wasn’t known for my grace and balance. I had a great lesson, which sadly ended in a wave catching me and the board I was carrying, twisting me awkwardly as I walked onto the […]
Adding vs Embedding
There are times when adding is appropriate. You have the capacity. You’re going to need to use the add-on daily anyway. There are benefits to the separation. I find that in most instances, embedding is a better option. You are more likely to establish and continue the new habit (and ALL changes require new habits) […]
How Will Your Change Fit Into Your Life?
“We are thinking of [name of change here] and we’re just going to add it to [whatever we are doing now].” Paraphrase of multiple conversations over the past few months I’m finding that many of us tackle change with the assumption that whatever change we’re making, we’re just going to add it to what we […]
What is Motivating Your Change?
Brian Moran and Michael Lennington, in their book The 12 Week Year, ask: Are you are being externally motivated to do things? How close is the alignment of your work and efforts to how you want your life to look? If the goal doesn’t align with your life vision, how inspired are you to work […]
Navigating the Out of Despair
The Out of Despair is the most dangerous out. Navigating this Out incorrectly leads to difficulties with future changes – not just the change you are currently making. This is rock-bottom. The darkness before the dawn. Depression and Anger are similar responses – even through they look very different. At the core, it’s a belief […]
Navigating the Out of Disappointment
The second out happens as we execute our plan. Things aren’t working the way we expected it to. As with the Out of Denial there are 3 potential responses when we hit this out: 1) I now understand what I need to become to be successful – and I want no part of it. 2) […]
Navigating the Out of Denial
Denial is an early out. We look over the hill and decide whether we even want to make the journey. In our planning, we see how much work needs to happen to make the change. There are 3 potential responses when we hit this out: 1) I see the work that needs to happen and […]
Change is a Journey – Addressing the Challenges
Most of us would love it if change was “one and done.” Change isn’t something that you can “graduate” from. As much as we wish it were otherwise, life (and change) doesn’t work like that. Remember that change is a journey. And, whether we like it or not, part of that journey will be challenging. […]
Preparing for the Change Journey
Change is a journey. It’s too easy to fixate on the destination. It’s too easy to fixate on milestones and checkpoints. Hit a milestone. Look at the next milestone. Rinse. Repeat. Our brains like certainty and control. Having a clear destination and clear milestones provides that. But the destination isn’t the end. The graphic shown […]
